Choosing the right officiant for your wedding is crucial. The officiant leads the ceremony, and sets the emotional tone of the wedding. The person you ultimately choose for this role needs to be confident and comfortable in this position, and needs to work with you to design a ceremony that truly expresses the unique relationship you and your partner have.
So where to start? Basically, you have two options. You can either choose a friend to serve as officiant, or you can hire a trained officiant.
In either case, make sure you start the search early and that you settle on the right person far ahead of the wedding date. The officiant will be involved in deciding how the ceremony will go, and this takes time. In order for everything to be perfect on the big day, don't wait for the last minute.
If you are living in a country where same-sex marriage is officially recognized, you will want an officiant who is legally capable of performing the ceremony. With a trained officiant, this won’t be an issue. If you would like to go with a friend for this role, then they can get licensed through various organizations or churches to become an officiant. Again, this takes some time, so settle this issue early.
If you don't live in a country that recognizes same-sex marriage, this kind of licensing won't be relevant, but that doesn't make the role of the officiant any less important. In fact, since the wedding is less likely to follow religious traditions in this case, the role of the officiant will be all the greater. For this reason, you need to find somebody you feel very comfortable with, and who can express the unique aspects of your relationship during the ceremony.
Asking a friend to officiate your wedding has the advantage that this is somebody who is already important in your life, who knows you and your partner well, and who you have a special chemistry with. On the other hand, it's important that if you go down this route, your friend enters this responsibility willingly, that you can work together effectively to write the ceremony in time, and that he or she will be able to stand in front of your friends and family and deliver the ceremony with poise.
A trained officiant won't have the benefit of already being familiar with the couple, but that's why it's important to start this search in time so the officiant has time to get to know you and your partner. The advantage of going with a trained officiant is that you will have somebody with experience who confidently carry out the ceremony.
There are lots of options when it comes to this important decision. if you need help finding an officiant for your wedding, write us an email at CONTACT, and we will help.